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Can Sexting Help Your Relationship?

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In recent years, “sexting” or the act of sending sexually explicit or suggestive text messages has become commonplace. Usually, the term is used with a degree of humor. We may make fun of friends for sexting and joke about ours “sexts” at brunch. It seems as if Buzzfeed and similar sites have new lists of “sexting fails” just about every week. For these reasons, sexting tends to be taken with a grain of salt.

When you get past the humor of it, can sexting actually be beneficial to a relationship?

According to numerous opinions from experts on relationships, sex and psychology, the answer seems to be a definite yes. Psychology Today had an interesting write-up on this topic in which expert opinions are combined with surveys of couples’ sexting habits, with the prevailing idea being that there are some very healthy aspects of sexting in relationships. Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright, the sex educator and sexologist who wrote the article, concludes that “sexting can be a valuable tool for couples who long to maintain or reinvigorate both their physical and emotional connections.” Specifically, sexting seems to serve two key purposes for people in relationships: helping them to keep up an intimate connection while separated by distance, and serving, essentially, as a new means of foreplay.

But it’s not only sex and relationship experts who are spreading the good word about the benefits of sexting. It appears that the actual “sexters,” more often than not, also report that sexting can have a positive effect on a relationship. An Adam & Eve infographic on sexting, which includes a number of fascinating polls and expert opinions, reveals quite simply that 56 percent of people polled who admit to sexting also say that it has strengthened their relationships. Of course, the same infographic reveals that 16 percent of men and 8 percent of women have accidentally sexted family members, so there are certain drawbacks to the habit. However, those who get it right seem to report mostly positive results.

In the end, it’s probably getting it right that makes all the difference. For the most part, the humiliating sext lists we see online are goofy mishaps that are extraordinarily unlikely to happen to you. In fact, a lot of them are probably faked just to make for more interesting and amusing lists. Still, it’s easy enough to send a bad sext without it being a Buzzfeed-worthy gaffe. For example, you may sext a little too soon, or a little too aggressively; you may tease and then not follow up, or be blunt without much creativity. To navigate these sorts of issues, Your Tango’s 8 Do’s & Don’ts (when it comes to sexting) is actually a pretty handy guide‚ particularly if you’re new to the practice, or in a new relationship.

But ultimately, it seems as if sexting isn’t as much of a joke or taboo subject as some might think. Experts and ordinary people agree that there are potential benefits to relationships, and so long as you go about it the right way you may even discover a whole new brand of foreplay. So go ahead and whip out your phone and send a sext‚ just double check it before you press send!

Provided by Adam & Eve

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

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It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m so thankful for all the love I’m feeling. Last night my boyfriend surprised me with roses and champagne. I’m so happy to have him in my life and thankful for all the ways we make each other better people. On top of all the romance, I’m ecstatic to have the love of my family, friends and readers. Happy Valentine’s Day my loves! xoxo

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Vodka Cocktails with a Valentine’s Day Twist

Fresh organic red smoothie with apple, watermelon, pomegranate,

What’s even better than strawberries dipped in chocolate? Valentine’s Day cocktails of course! Whether you’re planning a romantic night on the town with your very own Christian Grey or a “Fifty Shades of Grey” movie night in with the girls, delicious cocktails are must. Here’s a few aphrodisiac recipes bound to awaken your inner Anastasia Steele.

cocktail with strawberries, ice, and mint

Cupid’s Arrow
2 oz. Van Gogh Acai-Blueberry
4 oz. Pink Lemonade
Serve on the rocks
Pour vodka into a rocks glass with ice and top with pink lemonade. Garnish with an arrow, created by a cocktail pick with blueberries and small strawberry ‘arrow’ on the tip.

old fashioned jars with vivid red strawberry cocktail

Dolce Vita
1 ½ oz. Van Gogh Coconut
½ oz. Vanilla liqueur
½ oz. Orange syrup*
2 Strawberries
Splash of Rosé Champagne
1 Chocolate covered strawberry
Muddle strawberries with the syrup, add ice, vodka and liqueur. Shake and strain into a martini glass. Top with Champagne. Garnish with chocolate covered strawberry. (*Orange syrup: 1 cup orange juice to 1 ½ cups sugar. Boil until dissolved, let cool)

Chocolate Martini

French Kiss
1 oz. Van Gogh Espresso
1 oz. Chocolate liqueur
1 oz. White Chocolate liqueur
Splash of cream
Pour ingredients in a shaker over ice. Shake and serve in a chilled martini glass.

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Single Ladies of NYC Meet Premier Matchmaker Ms. Cowan of Cowan Introductions

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Having once been single in NYC, I know from personal experience how bitter dating can be in the Big Apple. Sometimes it can seem like everyone is either waiting for something better to come along or simply looking for a cheap one-night stand. For those seeking a long-term commitment, the New York dating scene can seem hopeless.

So when Ms. Cowan founder of Cowan Introductions, an elite matchmaker catering to New York City’s most eligible bachelors, contacted me with an offer for one lucky Aspiring Socialite reader to be part of one of her monthly relationship seminars for free, it was an opportunity I couldn’t pass up. If you’re a single lady looking for love in NYC, simply click here to sign up and mention that you were referred by Aspiring Socialite in the ‘Message’ section for a chance to be part of one of Ms. Cowan’s monthly relationship seminars.

In order to be considered for membership, women can sign up on the site free of charge. In my opinion, you have nothing to lose by taking a chance on love through a more traditional approach to matchmaking. So go for it! To learn more about Ms. Cowan and how she’s helping New Yorkers find the missing piece, check out my interview with the world-class matchmaker below.

Best of luck in love! xoxo

Q&A with Ms. Cowan

How did you get into matchmaking?

My background is in life coaching which includes assisting clients in building strong relationships, I felt a desire to utilize those skills which led me to start my own matchmaking company. After deciding this is what I wanted to do, I became matchmaking certified and I realized that all of my past experiences had brought me to this place.

Why did you start your company?

I was once a client of a very high-end matchmaking company and did not receive the service I deserved as a paying client. I felt like a number in a multitude of many. Therefore, my wishes went unheard and my thoughts and desires to find love through this vehicle were challenged. From this disappointing experience, it was clear that the high volume environment, which is common in traditional matchmaking agencies, could not offer the personalized service that is needed when connecting two people together. All experiences serve a purpose in this life’s journey and this experience wasn’t any different. A new desire emerged, the desire to improve the matchmaking experience.

What have been some challenges and how have you overcome them?

One of my initial obstacles was that some viewed matchmaking as a thing of the past. With social media and the dating networks that exist in today’s world, I found that traditional matchmaking could be seen as dated and old. So I continued to talk to professional men and women to determine what they wanted and needed that the industry lacked. My mock dating approach along with the continuous feedback throughout the process allows me to have genuine relationships with all of my clients. My state of the art concierge service was also a welcomed addition.

What do you enjoy most about what you do?

I love what I do more than anything. I love making a difference in the lives of others. Connecting two people that belong together has been the most rewarding thing I have ever done. I could not be happier. There’s nothing else I’d rather be doing.

How does the process work?

Most matchmaking services are very simple, they conduct a consultation and evaluation of their client then search their database for a potential partner to match. They exchange numbers the day of the date and then leave the rest up to chance. My company offers a different type of matchmaking service/experience. Cowan Introductions differentiates itself from competitors by offering a concierge experience for our clients. Before my clients meet their dates I set up a coaching session with them to see if they are really ready for and open to a relationship. This is separate from their initial consultation.

Next, I will have a mock date with them to test their dating skills. If they’re in need of a makeover, a stylist will be provided to help adjust their image. The third step is to set them up with a compatible match. Fourth, I will plan their date and set it up for them. After their date, I will have a conversation with my client and his date to figure out the next steps.

What’s your biggest success story so far?

For me, any client that makes a connection that leads into a long lasting committed relationship is a major success for me.

How does the screening process work?

Any male client chosen for the company goes through an extensive background check before we set them up on a date!

Do women pay for your services or just men?

Women do not pay for the service only our male clients.

What can women expect from your dating seminars?

They will have a better understanding of the matchmaking process and how to navigate the New York dating scene.

Do you believe in the traditional dating model where the man always pays for the date?

100 percent!

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14 Valentine’s Day Gifts (That Aren’t Corny)

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From Left to Right: 1) Mulberry Valentine’s Day Alexia Satchel 2) Limited Edition Rose Duet Candle 3) Jewelry Heart & Key Necklace Set in Gold 4) Red and White Chocolate Covered Strawberries 5) Kate Spade Spade Bangle Bracelet 6) Deborah Lippmann Love Notes Lipstick and Nail Polish Set 7) Valentine’s Day Salad Plates 8) Cosabella Assorted Never Say Never Underwear 9) Tory Burch Logo Heart Studs 10) Zales Stackable Expressions 11) Dot Marc Jacobs Valentine’s Day Set 12) Three Dozen Peach Roses 13) Bobbi Brown Limited Edition Nail Polish 14) Big Heart Oversized Sweatshirt 

Whether you’re single or taken, Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to celebrate your love of fashion, pink hearts, and radiant red lipstick.  It’s also a great time of year to either get sent or send yourself a lovely bouquet of flowers.  That is of course if you even remember it’s Valentine’s Day in between viewing the latest Fall Collections at New York Fashion Week which runs from Feb. 7th-14th.  So before I get caught up in the glamour of viewing the next fall season at Lincoln Center, I’m putting together an amazing lists of Valentine’s Day gifts for every budget without the typical corniness that tends to follow this holiday.  So treat yourself or a friend to some Valentine’s Day fabulosity.  Or if you’re super subtile, send your significant other a link to this post.

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